How to move on from a break-up

We are all different and we all heal in different ways. As you probably noticed, my boyfriend and I broke up last year. It was a mutual decision and it was for the best of me and him. I think it is safe to say we are both in much happier and better places now. Sometimes people come into our lives to teach us a lesson and sometimes they come into our life to bring along other amazing beings that are meant to stay in our life even when our futures expire. Breaking up is always tough, even if it's a mutual thing. Here are some things that helped me move on and get over my breakup.

Let your feelings out

The first couple of months of a breakup are the toughest. It is very hard to let go of a routine, especially if you've been with someone for more than a year. Take it day by day and if you have to cry to let your feelings out, do it. Crying helped me so much as it was a way for me to let go of all the pain I had building up inside of me. Trust me, there were plenty of nights where I cried myself to sleep but I woke up feeling so much better. Healing is a daily process and eventually, there will come a day when thinking about that person or the relationship will no longer bring tears to your eyes.

Spend time with your friends and loved ones

I cannot begin to say how thankful I am for my small group of people. My friends have been with me through it all and they are the most amazing humans ever. After my breakup, I spent so much time with my friends and they constantly made me feel better. Being around your loved ones will help get your mind off of the situation. I basically lived with my ex - since the only times we weren't together was when we were at work. Being with someone for so long and suddenly not spending any time with them is very difficult, so having people around you that you love and can talk to is a good way to help you move on. I went out with my friends, had dinner, drinks and danced. This helped me get my mind off of things and slowly helped me move on.

Work on yourself both physically and mentally

While I was in my relationship, I put both my mental health and physical health in the backburner. I didn't prioritize myself and therefore I barely got any exercise in. After my breakup, I decided it was time to put myself first and work on getting back to a healthy weight and routine. I joined Title boxing and began working out daily. I have never been a person that loved going to the gym because unless I have an instructor telling me what to do, I get bored. Boxing is my passion and it definitely helped me relieve the post-breakup pain. In regards to my mental health, I have found that saying "no" a lot more often has definitely helped me in situations when I don't feel comfortable. In my previous relationship, got used to agreeing and doing things that I wasn't happy with. I am slowly getting used to not feeling guilty about telling people "no" when I simply don't want to go out or partake in something.

Go out

Being around people definitely helps get your mind off of things. Go out to a cafe and read, or go to a bar and have a glass of wine. Take a class by yourself or go out and explore your town. Making new friends will help you move on and it is much better to be out and about and keeping busy than being home by yourself thinking about the relationship and the person.

If you're going through a breakup, I hope some of these tips help you. Remember that if things are meant to work out, they will. As Doris Day says, "Que sera, sera. Whatever will be, will be."

Xo,

Ingrith